5 Signs That Your Partner Is Emotionally Immature & How to Deal with Them

Being in a relationship where your opposite partner is emotionally unstable & immature is an untold suffer. You can not share your partner’s flaws with anyone, you can not tolerate either & you can not leave that person as well. Today we’ll discuss 5 signs of an emotionally immature partner & some tips to overcome the situations.

Here are the signs that your partner is emotionally immature:

1. Emotionally Explosive: When you complain or suggest something about their behaviour they become so defensive or burst into anger. They are never willing to take your words as suggestions or advice. They feel like you are demeaning them or questioning their nature. In this case, you have to think very critically on how to tell them about their flaws without hurting their feelings.
2. The Lack Empathy: When you share your feeling to them, they lack empathy & questions your feelings. They may shame your feelings by saying that, you’re too needy or you cry over everything. They are unable & unwilling to share & understand the feelings, emotions, excitements of their significant others. They are self-centred & only prioritizes their own need, desires & emotions above anything.
3. Never Confesses Guilt: They don’t learn from their past experiences. According to them, all the faults were only done by the others & they were always right. They struggle to take the accountability of their own actions. Instead of acknowledging & expressing genuine regret, they deny their wrongdoings & even though they do it anytime, they stand their actions to be the reactions of the other person. They fear being judged, criticized & getting rejected by their partner. And that’s the reason why they keep avoiding to admit their wrongdoings altogether.
4. Behave Like A Child When Things Gets Wrong: When things don’t go on their way they act like child. Either they become so quite or reacts a lot. They always try to avoid consequences. Instead of taking responsibilities for their action they blame others or external circumstances for their difficulties. Like a child manipulate their parents for what they want, an emotionally immature partner also tries to influence his/her partner their partner to solve the problem rather than carrying the responsibilities equally.
5. Ignore Problems Rather Than Working On Them: When any problem arises in the relationship, they just ignore them thinking that, this problems may solve on their own. They actively avoid discussing & addressing issues that arise in the relationship. Instead of acknowledging the problem & understanding the problem, they ignores the significant of it to avoid responsibility. They downplay the issue & tries to convince that any discussion over that issue isn’t worth it.

We’ve mentioned these 5 signs of emotionally immature partner. As most of us are attached with that person & can’t get rid of them & the only thing we want is nothing but to stay with them. We must also know how to deal with them when they are emotionally immature.

1. Set Boundaries: Establish a clear boundary & limits of what behaviour is acceptable & unacceptable in the relationship. The boundaries should save your emotional, physical & mental well-being. For setting boundaries prioritize your needs, values & limits as well as maintain the strictness for setting & maintaining the boundaries.
2. Lead by Examples: There is a famous saying that, “Be the person who you want to be your partner”. Behave like the way you want to be treated. This practice creates the sense of mutual respect. Listen to your partner’s concern & validate their emotions. Show empathy even if you disagree with their thoughts. Take responsibility of your actions & teach them slowly.
3. Encourage Open Communication: This is where most of the problems gets solved. In my past relationship, there was lack of open communication from my partner. And lack of open communication leads to many many problems. Create a safe & non-judgemental environment for your partner to express their feelings, thoughts & concerns. I know it is challenging but it is crucial to have a healthy relationship ahead & to save the mutual respect for each other.
4. Offer Support & Encourage Them: Be patient & supportive to your partner as you know they are dealing with their immaturity. Encourage to do something better & praise them for their achievement & learnings. Always stay beside on their journey of growth & success. It is your duty to reassure them that, you are always there at their lowest to the highest.
5. Practice Self-Care: Yes, it is your duty to be devoted in the relationship & to become nice to your partner but you should also take care of your own emotional, physical & mental well-being. You must acknowledge what you are getting out of that effort. Engage in self-care activities which will recharge you. Prioritize your own need of happiness. If you forget to care yourself in the rat-race of your partners satisfaction, after a certain time you’ll stop feeling your level of energy. So, your must prioritize your needs, expectations & happiness.

Remember, it needs a lots of effort to deal with an emotionally immature person. But you have no other option as you love them & care about them. It will take patience, empathy & commitment to growth & understanding. Lastly I again want to say that, Be the person you want your partner to be. And if it doesn’t work out after lots of efforts & compromises then you really need to come to a conclusion whether you want to stay with you partner or not.