Hey reader, I know maybe you are broken, sad, and suffering. But do you really deserve this? Is this what you want the world to see you as? If your answer is “No”, then only then do you have the permission to read the whole thing.
Letting go of a loved one is not easy. But just think again, were you happy in that relationship? The sufferings, the pains you have experienced, do you deserve them? We as human beings have a tendency of becoming dependent on our loved ones. The human brain is always lazy, it never wants to work hard, it doesn’t want to face reality. What it does is, it always tries to find the comfort zone and when it finds its comfort zone once, it doesn’t allow us to get out of that comfort zone. The same goes for our loved ones. We find a person of comfort at the beginning. We start to think about them and our lazy brain, afraid of the real world, starts to create a world of imagination around that person. And one day when that particular person leaves us, the world of our imagination gets shattered like glass. And our brain, used to living in that imagination and lifestyle, can’t accept the truth and that’s when we feel the pain, our heart breaks, and the suffering starts.
No matter what we did and do for that person, it really doesn’t matter. Yes, you are broken inside but remember you can never force anyone to love you or to be with you. They left us for a reason. Let them go. They have their own preferences and we should respect that. But right now what’s important is for you to heal, for you to be fine, and get back to your best version. Here are the reasons why you should move on:
- Religious Perspective: This is a very important aspect to think of. If you believe in the Almighty, you should always believe in the faith he has written. You yourself know, you were not happy in that relationship. You used to fight, you used to overthink, you used to feel pain, and only you used to feel all the tension. Is this what a relationship is meant to be? A relationship is meant to give you peace. And that relationship didn’t work out because God has written a better story for you. That person wasn’t good for your life for the long run. Even if you were to end up marrying that person, maybe it would end up in divorce. And that would have been unbearable for you. So believe in God. The breakup was necessary for the journey you have ahead.
2. Self-Improvement: Be honest with yourself and accept that. That person left you because they found someone better than you. Yes, I believe you have potential. You will become so much better than anyone. It’s just a matter of time and opportunity. So, accept the truth. Prepare yourself and be the version you’ve always wanted to become. You must improve yourself in a way that the person who left you regrets.
3. Focus on your dream: You shaped your dream for that particular person. You compromised with your own passion, your own dream which you had before that person. Don’t sacrifice your dream. Get up, take a deep breath, think about your goal again, and start working for it.
4. Don’t be selfless: I know you have sacrificed a lot. You have done so many things deeply and madly for him/her. You have done so many things that person doesn’t even know about. All your focus was to see him/her happy. But what have you done for yourself? Didn’t you do injustice to yourself? Didn’t you ruin your own growth that you deserved? Now, work for yourself. Your happiness is the most important right now. Remember, a person who can take care of himself can take care of others.
5. Responsibilities: You have responsibilities to your parents, your siblings, your other family members, and your friends. Remember, after jumping into that relationship, you stopped giving attention to your family and friends. All of your time was only reserved for that person. You were not available for others. They also deserve your time, your attention. They want to see you succeed in life. You have responsibilities to not let them down.
6. Know Your Worth: Yes, I know she was one out of a thousand. But remember my friend! You are one out of a MILLION! You deserve someone who knows your value. But before that, you yourself need to know your worth. See the potential inside you. What you can do. Do it for yourself. All the dreams you have dreamt with him/her should be fulfilled. The person will not be there, but a dream can never be unfilled.
7. Come Back to Reality: Remember, a person who lefts has left many times before. Never. It is in their behavior. Thank the Almighty that he/she left you very early. You have a lot to do ahead. If you do not do well in life, he/she will see that, and think that they did the best by leaving you. Focus on your dreams, fulfill them to treat yourself. Remember, success is the best revenge.
Dear reader, life is too short to be sad. There are eight billion people out there. Among those 8 billion, how many people have you experienced? Just a few. PLEASE! Have hope. There are so many out there that exactly match your dream and your expectations. God will send you the right person at the right time. Wash yourself up! Close your eyes, pray to God, and ask him to fix you at any cost. Pray to him to bless you with the best plan he has for you and bless you with wonderful friends and family.
