Well, this is a very important topic to be discussed for every man before marriage. Because as a man, who has never dealt with any woman & now wants to get married it is difficult to know about the women’s nature. Not only for any non-experienced man but sometimes also some men who are married for years but are lucky to have a green flag don’t know how to spot the red flags in women. So, in this episode we will talk about some red flags in women that need to be inquired before marriage:
Here are the 10 red flags of a woman to consider before marriage:
- Poor at Keeping Things in Herself: This is the very first one. A girl who keeps talking things from here to there, shares everything & most importantly is not transparent is a complete red flag. Because after marriage, there will be so many changes in life, You both will have to reveal many truths that you thought would be lame to discuss before marriage. These boundaries need to be respected by keeping them private. And most importantly if she’s someone who pretends to be a keeper but tells you some random stuff about others but not clearing the whole story. Then she’s definitely a red flag. You take this advice from me because I have dealt with a woman of this kind.
- Egoistic Women: A woman who has an ego problem is not wife material. She will say, I will not do this, I will not go there, this is not my task, why don’t you do them for me? If your partner is like this who is full of ego, it will not work eventually. And even if she does something that wasn’t supposed to be done by her & reminds you of that then she has a problem. Because there are so many sacrifices to do, so many adjustments to do after marriage which need mutual solution. She will say, “It is only me who tolerates you, no-one would do so”😂
- Emotionally Weak: A woman who isn’t emotionally strong. If she cries at little, gets mood swings every minute, blames others then she is definitely not ready to be get married. Because after marriage, so many obstacles you both will have to face. If the wife isn’t strong enough then it becomes very hard for the husband to be the savior all the time. And this kind of woman can’t survive the real scenario of life.
4. Family Distance: Any woman who can’t cope up with family culture, who wants to stay alone isn’t supposed to give you the happy family experience. If she’s someone who doesn’t want to spend time with her family, always stays alone, doesn’t participate in family conversations then she’s not supposed to handle the family issues that will arise after marriage or couple of years after the marriage. No matter you live separately without parents. Always remember, there will always be expectations of a bonded family.
5. Never Apologises: If in your relationship, you’re the one who always has to apologize all the time no matter whose fault it is & you’re the one who has to put hard effort to get her back to normal conversation again then brother! STOP doing that right from now. She does this because you’re the one who always does the “SIMPING” thing. I know you do this because it doesn’t matter whose fault this is but you respect the relationship & love her with your life. But just think of after marriage, can you keep doing this all your life? At least, do you want that? A relationship & a marriage are different. You’ll have to be with her all over your life. So, choose a mature one who respects & understands the relationship.
6. Doesn’t Reciprocate Your Effort: A woman who doesn’t reciprocate your efforts & thinks that she deserves it & that’s why it is normal that you have to this. What to reciprocate about this? And woman who says, “Did I tell you to do this? Why did you do this?” are never going to be a good wife. This woman will always make you feel insecure & unproud.
7. Never Asks but Expects: As a man, it is never possible to understand everything of a woman. Yes, as a boyfriend you might be giving extra care to her every emotion but as a husband where all day you’ll have to deal with your job, businesses & the world think of it logically that will you be able to give that extra care to her all the time? If she doesn’t have minimum responsibility to solve a problem or ask for your help but expects you to understand everything and care for her then she’s not wife material. Because, for a man to live with such a woman who doesn’t ask but always wants the man to always put extra care to feel her. As a man, you’ll have to deal with the world every day & you definitely won’t want another problem inside your house to deal with every day when all you need is peace.
8. Wants All of Your Time: If she needs you all the time around her. Or wants to text you, call you & doesn’t understand your routine & care about your growth then what’s the point of it? As a man, you have a family to look after, you have friends with whom you grew up, you have a goal to achieve, you have an environment to manage. If she doesn’t understand your priorities, your independence to reach your goal then trust me, one day when she finds a better person will leave you. And even if you end up marrying that person, you’ll always be under pressure all your life.
9. Has Mental Health Problems but Doesn’t Seek Help: Trust me! I have a wholesome experience of dealing with a woman with this issue. My ex-gf had some mental health issues, what she used to do is, She was good all the day but when it was night she used to talk about she wasn’t feeling good & don’t want to live, wants to commit suicide. And even sometimes used to tell me like, she had have sleeping pills or cut her hand etc. And every time when I tried to motivate her or tell her to go to a doctor, or even if I reach her roommate she used to become more upset & forbade me to not help her. She can take care of herself. But the very next time, she used to do that with more drama. So, from my own experience, I am saying someone who doesn’t want to get well by herself & also doesn’t want others’ help is a serious person to deal with. If she’s someone who doesn’t seek others’ help when in trouble is a VERY BIG RED FLAG. You can’t deal with her in the long run.
10. Talks About Her Ex: A girl who often talks about her ex, either good or bad isn’t supposed to be in a relationship let alone marriage. She talks about her ex means, she couldn’t get out of that relationship. Still, she has feelings for him. And if you’re someone who is thinking that, I will make everything better so that one day she forgets her ex. Then, I must afraid to tell you that you’ll never be able to. If she’s someone who doesn’t want to remember anything about her past, that is okay but if she’s someone who often or randomly still talks ANYTHING, any good or bad things then whoever you are my friend, you have time to save yourself. Don’t go after her from now!
Well, is this the whole list of red flag? NO! These are the very vital signs of red flags that are experienced by the writer himself. And that is mostly from one woman. There are also many signs that need discussion. You can ask, are these red flags not curable? The answer is ‘Yes’. Women are human beings. And human nature can be changed. So, if you like a woman with any of the red flag issues that can also be solved by time & efforts.
We will write about that in another episode of our blog. But remember, a decision like marriage on which all the happiness, future, children, and family are depending on, comprehend it with more time. And if you know about some other red flag signs then let us know in the comment. We appreciate your comments & will write about that in this blog.
