It’s only natural that you don’t want to mend the frayed thread of a relationship that you’ve come out of with the most bitter feelings. But the reality is that the dynamics of the relationship does not depend only on one party. The other party may want to rekindle the old relationship. Even if there is no intention to rekindle the relationship, he may have a tendency to annoy for no reason.
Whatever your ex’s intentions may be, his actions can disrupt your life. If the ex won’t back down, what can you do to move your life forward? Find out today.
1. Keep your distance
If your ex bothers you, avoid him. Try not to see him for a long time. If there are people in your circle of acquaintances with whom your ex is involved, then avoid going out with them for several days. If the former is a member of the same circle of friends, you take a break from that circle of friends. Avoid talking, discussing, criticizing him. If you and your ex both work in the same office, you can take some time off. Transfer to another branch of the same office if possible. Or change jobs if possible. The point is, make sure you don’t meet your ex. It is important to maintain distance.
2. Speak firmly
All efforts to maintain distance may not always work. In that case you can try to dissuade him by talking. Be firm when talking to your ex. He can remind you of the sweet times, tell you how hard it is without you, tell you the ‘Speech’, show remorse for past mistakes. Again he may blame you. Can try to make you feel guilty. Can threaten suicide. No matter what he tries to say, don’t fall into this ’emotional blackmailing’ trap. Instead, let him know firmly that it’s over. You are past that phase. The man is only a past in your life.
3. But don’t always respond
Don’t pick up the phone every time your ex calls, don’t answer every text message. Silence also sometimes conveys the right message. Your silence will convey that you are no longer positive about him.
4. Let it be known that someone else has come into your life
If you are already in another relationship, you can tell your ex. If he is pursuing you to get you back into his life, chances are he will be turned away when he finds out. But there is no need to talk in detail about who is going to be your new partner. If the ex is vindictive but can stand in the way of a new relationship.
5. Avoid in the digital world too
Block or delete your ex from all social media, WhatsApp, Messenger or dating apps. Make sure your ex doesn’t see what you ‘post’ on social media.
6. Get legal help if needed
If your ex won’t get over you and is making your life miserable, you may need legal help. If the situation goes to such a level, there is really no other option.
