Do you feel scared at the thought of marriage? You might be suffering from Gamophobia.
‘Kho Gaye Hum Kaha’ is a movie about the crisis in Gen-Z’s relationship. Ananya Pandey, Siddharth Chaturvedi, Adarsh Gaurav are the main characters of this movie three friends. One of them Imad Ali (Siddharth Chaturvedi) is a standup comedian by profession. He can never settle down in any relationship. ‘One night stand’ is the last word of his relationship.
At that time a woman named Simran came into his life. While making a documentary, they fall in love. But Imad is not even from the relationship. He could not accept the relationship. Simran could not understand anything, what is the problem of Imad! Once Simran and Imad broke up. Imad realizes his mistake after losing Simran. The horrible childhood past, which he never told anyone, he shares with his audience in a show. May he be freed from the bad past he has been carrying for many years. Alleged that she was sexually abused as a child by her father’s business partner. Since then he has not been able to have any normal relationship. Gradually he comes out of childhood trauma. Restores relationship with Simran.
The number of people who are in committed relationships but cringe at the prospect of marriage and hold back on making a commitment is no small number. All the rules of the relationship are more or less followed, but when it comes to ‘naming’ the relationship, bringing it to the public, or recognizing it, they back off! In such situations, it becomes difficult for the other party to maintain or continue the relationship. Many times, the other party gets fed up with this behavior and gives up. You are thinking, ‘How much more? There is a limit to human tolerance!’ But you may not know that the other party is suffering from a special condition. He needs treatment and support from close people.
Like other phobias, the fear of wanting to commit to marriage or a relationship is known as gamophobia. If you suffer from gamophobia, you may experience physical and emotional symptoms similar to other phobias when hearing about marriage or proposing a formal commitment—
- Restlessness, chest pain
- A feeling of not being able to breathe
- Frequent breathing
- Increased heart rate
- Not being able to think clearly in panic or fear
- Not being able to speak properly
- Headache
- Getting angry suddenly
- Sweating, thirst for water
- Trembling
In addition to the above symptoms, patients with gamophobia may behave abnormally when they hear about marriage. They may talk incoherently or take the initiative to get out of the relationship. The point is, the person can suffer from depression for six months after being overwhelmed by negative thoughts from a ‘panic attack.’
Why is Gamophobia?
There are personal, familial, economic, and social factors behind gamophobia. What are they? Let’s take a look.
Past Trauma
This is the biggest cause of gamophobia worldwide, as seen in Imad. Bitter experiences of the past. Many times after being cheated on in a relationship, the fear of being cheated on again in a new relationship enters into the person. In some cases, seeing the pain of parents’ separation or a toxic relationship creates a feeling of negativity or fear towards relationships. Also, they may have seen a close friend or relative suffering from an affair. They don’t want to go through the same feeling. For the same reason, many people do not want to remarry after a divorce.
Insecurity About Relationships
Relationship instability seems to be felt by today’s youth more than at any time in the past. One of the main reasons for this is the ease of communication. As a result, ‘Situationship,’ ‘Doubling,’ ‘One night stand,’ ‘Ghosting,’ ‘Benching,’ ‘Breadcrumbing,’ and many more! Many people develop gamophobia out of feeling insecure or uncertain about relationships.
Lack of Connection with Family
Studies have shown that most people with gamophobia do not have strong family ties. For those who are not bound by family ties, a kind of anxiety, worry, fear, and negativity about joining family ties works.
Genetic Factors
There are also genetic factors behind different types of phobias. Maybe someone close in his parents’ family had gamophobia. It is passed down through the genes to the next generation.
Social Pressure
Breaking up a relationship is not seen as normal in our society. As a result, many are afraid to commit to a relationship or get married because they think about what to do if the relationship breaks up, how to handle the situation, and what people will say.
How to Recover?
The good news is, there is a cure for gamophobia. You can easily get rid of such a situation by taking therapy through a psychologist, psychiatrist, and similar professionals. You will regain the confidence to settle down in the relationship. Sometimes people, especially those you are in a relationship with, can also play an important role in overcoming gamophobia. But above all, there is no substitute for your sincerity, positivity, and constant efforts to recover from this condition.
