The word ‘perfect’ is certainly not meant for married life. No matter how many couples’ pictures you see on Instagram, or how many cheerful videos you watch on reels, believe me, none of those marriages are ‘perfect.’ In fact, in many cases, the reality is that your marital complications might be less than theirs. Just like an algebraic graph, the relationship between husband and wife has its ups and downs, and that’s completely normal. Relationship experts have even concluded that a certain level of conflict within a relationship is ‘healthy.’ Let’s explore some of the major enemies of married life that you should be aware of.
1. Comparison
Comparison is one of the biggest enemies of married life. Every person is unique, and the first thing you need to do is acknowledge your partner’s individuality. If you’re constantly comparing your partner to someone else, then maybe you should have married that “someone else”! Relationship experts from the U.S.-based marriage website Marriage.com have already declared that comparing your partner to others is a form of emotional abuse. Such comparisons push your relationship into an unhealthy competition, and eventually, it turns toxic. So, never make the mistake of comparing your relationship or your partner with someone else.
2. The Tendency to Win Every Argument
Just as there’s no such thing as a “perfect” marriage, there’s no such thing as a “50-50” balance in a relationship either. Sometimes, you’ll make more compromises, and at other times, your partner will. That’s how relationships move forward, and the same applies to arguments. One of you might say a bit more or get more heated during a disagreement. In such moments, why not be the one to let it go? If you focus on winning every argument, you might end up losing the marriage itself. If you’re still stuck in the “blame game,” then maybe you’re not ready for a healthy marital relationship. Instead of focusing on who’s at fault or whose issue is bigger, both of you should sincerely work together to resolve the problem.
3. The Influence of a Third Party in Relationships
Conjugal relations must be kept free from third-party influence. It is extremely foolish to look elsewhere for the solution to your marital relationship. Respect your partner, overcome marital crises, and forgive them from your heart. Every now and then, there are many unwanted situations in relationships where sometimes you are more responsible, and sometimes the other party is responsible. Forgive each other by forgetting constant bitterness about lifelong marriage. The more importance you give to a third party in your marriage, the more complicated it will become. Start anew at every new turn of the marriage relationship. It also increases understanding with each other and strengthens the relationship. Never belittle your partner by ‘judging’ others. In fact, you will be small. The complications within themselves will only increase.
4. The Silence That Eventually Turns into a ‘Volcano’
You may have disagreements with your partner. There are many small issues that could have been solved by sitting together and talking. But you thought it best not to talk about them. In many cases, such silence sometimes turns into a ‘volcano’. Many words accumulate and create such marital discord that it becomes difficult to get out of it and return to a normal relationship. So melt the ice of pride before it reaches the limit through open discussion and understanding.
5. The Phone That Becomes More Important to You Than Your Partner
If your phone is more important to you than your partner, then you are doing it wrong. You are doing wrong by your partner and your married life. If this mistake is tolerated, the distance will increase and eventually, the normal rhythm of married life will be destroyed. All that will remain of that dead couple is the habit of living together. The same goes for laptops, tablets, gaming, or television instead of phones!
Remember: The path to a fulfilling marriage isn’t about seeking perfection—it’s about embracing imperfection and growing together through the challenges.
