Every girlfriend loves to hear words of love or praise from her boyfriend. So sometimes a little flattery, blending truth with embellishment, is necessary—whether it’s about her beauty or intelligence. However, in trying to compliment, some boyfriends end up saying things that, instead of winning their girlfriend’s heart, raise questions. This can even lead to conflicts.
Of course, you should praise your girlfriend sincerely, but be a little cautious. Don’t let anything slip that might hurt her or make her bombard you with questions. Try to compliment naturally, as excessive praise may come across differently to her. Let’s find out what you should avoid saying—
- 1. “You look very beautiful today.”
Don’t start showering her with compliments the moment you see her. First, gather your thoughts and figure out how to say something that she will believe and feel happy about. Never say, “You look very beautiful today.” The moment you say that, she might retort with, “Why, didn’t I look beautiful before?” At that point, you’ll struggle to find a response. Instead, tell her that she looks as beautiful as always. This way, she will not only be happy but also feel confident.
2. Comparison with an ex
Whether your ex was good or bad, never compare your girlfriend to her. No woman likes to be compared to another woman, especially not to her boyfriend’s ex. Moreover, bringing up your ex will only make her realize that you haven’t moved on yet. So, no matter how lucky you feel to have your current girlfriend, avoid comparing her to your ex.
3. Praising another woman
Every woman loves to hear her own praise from others. But they dislike hearing their boyfriend praise another woman. So, even if someone else’s personality or beauty impresses you, it’s best not to mention it in front of your girlfriend. If you say it once, you may have to endure her jabs about it for the rest of your life. So, to keep yourself safe, refrain from doing this.
4. Commenting on her weight
Never make comments about her weight, even if it’s meant as a compliment like, “You look so much thinner.” This can be a sensitive topic, and she may take it the wrong way, thinking you’re implying she was overweight before. Instead, focus on complimenting her overall appearance or energy, saying something like, “You look great today.”
5. Criticizing her choices
Avoid criticizing her taste in clothes, hobbies, or any personal choices. Statements like, “I don’t understand why you like this,” can make her feel judged and unappreciated. Support her interests and acknowledge her individuality instead of making her feel inadequate for her preferences.
6. Questioning her emotions
Phrases like, “Why are you always so emotional?” can be damaging. It makes her feel like her feelings are not valid. Instead, try to be supportive and ask her what’s bothering her. Show her that you’re willing to listen, and she’ll appreciate you more for being there when she needs you.
7. Talking about her friends
Avoid making negative comments about her friends, even if you don’t particularly like them. Saying something like, “I don’t like how your friend influences you,” will only create tension. She values her friends, and criticizing them can feel like you’re criticizing her choices. Be respectful and express your opinions in a non-judgmental way if necessary.
8. Undermining her achievements
When she shares her accomplishments, never say something like, “Oh, that’s good, but…” This diminishes her efforts and makes her feel unappreciated. Celebrate her successes, no matter how small they may seem to you. Your encouragement means a lot to her.
9. Comparing her to other couples
Never say things like, “Look how happy they are together,” while pointing to another couple. This can make her feel like your relationship is lacking. Every relationship is unique, and comparisons only create unnecessary pressure and resentment. Focus on your own bond instead.
10. Belittling her worries
If she expresses a concern, never respond with, “You’re overthinking it.” This can make her feel like her feelings are being dismissed. Acknowledge her worries and reassure her instead. Show her that you care about what she’s feeling.
11. Bringing up sensitive topics in public
Avoid discussing sensitive or controversial topics in front of others, especially if you know it’s something she’s uncomfortable with. Phrases like, “Remember that time you…” can embarrass her. Always respect her privacy and discuss personal matters in private.
12. Forgetting special dates
Forgetting important dates like anniversaries or her birthday and then trying to downplay it with a casual, “It’s not a big deal, right?” is a huge mistake. It shows her that you don’t value the moments that are significant to her. Make an effort to remember and celebrate these days to show her she’s important to you.
13. “I don’t have time for this.”
If she wants to talk about something and you cut her off with, “I don’t have time for this,” it can feel like a complete disregard for her feelings. Always make time for her concerns, no matter how trivial they may seem to you. This will show her that you’re genuinely interested in what she has to say and that you care about her well-being.
Remember, words have the power to build or break a relationship. A little mindfulness can prevent misunderstandings and make your bond stronger. Choose your words carefully and with love, because sometimes, it’s not about saying the right thing, but about saying it the right way.
