A long-standing friendship may have been ruined by a small quarrel. All chats are off. You are suffering in your heart. His presence in leisure, at the office, in class, chats, or on social media makes you uncomfortable and nervous. But you do not want to contact him again. You want to move forward after passing this bad period of life.
Things you can do in such situations:
1. Give yourself some time to calm down
You may have planned a long journey with a friend, but due to some unexpected reasons, the tension has been going on for a long time. First, you should take some time to understand and appreciate what happened. It is important to have the ability to control the situation and your emotions at the moment. You need some private time to reflect on the situation. Then decide.
2. Accept the situation
Many times we consider school and college friendships to be eternal. Day after day, many things are done, like participating in various events with friends or their family, visiting different places, and going out to eat. But for some unforeseen reason, that friendship may not last. Sometimes, it is not possible to stay in one city, or there is no time due to work pressure. Whatever the situation may be, you should accept it without brooding over it. The course of life changes, as do the people around us. You must follow the way forward by accepting this law of nature. Instead of dwelling on that period of friendship, keep yourself busy. Focus your mind on work that brings you joy.
3. Express gratitude
Learn to be grateful to the people around you who help you. Maybe you’re having a bad day, and you’re looking for a friend to share those events with. Choose another person in the house to talk to in the absence of that friend. You can also share with your partner or a colleague. As we grow up, our world of busyness and work changes. You don’t always have friends to hang out with, so be grateful for those around you who provide emotional support.
4. Minimize gossip
Long-term friendship becomes a habit in life. It will surely be painful if it ends suddenly due to some incident. When a friendship ends, both parties likely played a role. Some may be more guilty, some less. If you have less guilt, admit your fault and forgive yourself. This will help you forget the past and move forward. Another important thing is that even after the end of the friendship, do not make bad or false comments about your former friend.
5. Solutions are better than endings
It’s normal for friends to get angry at times. But if the situation is very serious, you have to make a decision. Do you want to give your long-time friendship another chance, or is the relationship becoming harmful to you? Give yourself some time alone. You can decide by reflecting on the situation. If you feel that all the above methods are not helping you move forward emotionally after the friendship has ended, take the initiative to fix the relationship. If you feel that you truly miss him in everything, then you can give him another chance. After a long break, maybe both of you will develop a new understanding.
